Mastering Your Mind When Thoughts Provoke Feelings
Thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to results. Of course we’ve all heard this saying in some form or another, but what does this actually mean? How can we change our thoughts to better serve us? In order to ensure we are achieving the results that we desire in life, we must learn how to train our minds to only accept the thoughts that will grow us and lead us in the direction of living out our best lives.
It is so easy to get caught up in negative thinking with the constant stimulation we are surrounded by in our digitally driven world. Many of us do not give ourselves a chance to question why a particular thought came about, let alone acknowledge the thought itself. One negative thought usually leads to another and eventually we may even find ourselves spiraling into full on anxiety mode.
Television, social media, and modern technology in general has made it so easy for us to push away uncomfortable thoughts and essentially numb the feelings that certain thoughts bring about, instead of questioning the thought itself. This may seem like the best route at the time but these thoughts that we bury eventually begin to fester until one single thought - that probably wasn’t even true to begin with - has led to actions that deliver a result that is not aligned with our higher self standards.
You are not your thoughts, and thoughts are not facts. A thought is merely just that, a thought. It is simply an idea that popped into your head - or perhaps an idea someone else put into your head - and it is you alone that gives meaning to that thought. When a thought begins to provoke a feeling, take a moment to yourself to cultivate that space between thoughts.
Put that phone on silent, step away from your desk, take a series of deep breaths and bring yourself to the present moment. Pay attention to these thoughts and feelings without judgement - without believing, for example, that there’s a “right” and “wrong” way to think or feel in any given moment. Ask yourself if this thought is helping or hindering your growth. Is it someone else’s thought or is it your own? How does it make you feel? If it makes you feel bad, it’s probably not true and it’s definitely not aligned with growing you.
he practice of gratitude to kick off your day keeps the negative thoughts away! Or, at least, helps to more quickly drive those thoughts away by replacing them with truth and goodness. When you are constantly practicing gratitude it’s nearly impossible for those negative thoughts to creep in. Start your morning with a gratitude meditation. Find a comfy seat, close your eyes, breath in deep and put a big beautiful smile on that face. List off everything you can think of that you are grateful for - even when you’re not feeling particular grateful, you woke up and today is brand new day. Instead of blaring tunes on your commute, embrace the silence and time to say your thanks. Bathroom break? You know the drill.
The more grateful we become, the more abundant and excited we feel which naturally attracts more good to flow into our lives. But when all we are thinking about is wanting what we don’t have, it’s essentially a smack in the face to the universe. For instance, say you put some real thought and time into a gift for a friend. You’re excited to give them that gift because undoubtedly they’ll be just as excited to receive it. You present them with said gift. They open it, say thanks, and toss it to the side with all of the other gifts. No excitement, no true gratitude. It stings, your feelings are probably hurt, and you decide that’s the last time you ever want to give them a meaningful gift - because, well, they clearly don’t see the thoughtfulness and love that went into this present. So think about it. Why would the universe want to ever give more to you if you aren’t grateful for what you’ve been blessed with in the first place?
Thoughts become things. All of our results in life are cumulative of the actions we take in response to our thoughts. We can live the life we dream about it and all it requires is holding on to the thoughts that serve us and disregarding those that don’t. Take advantage of every single moment you have to yourself to show your gratitude for all of of good in your life. You are alive and whether or not you choose to see it, you are abundant.